When we find our perfect match, there isn’t much that we wouldn’t do for them. We’d let them turn the TV channel over, we’d cook them their favorite meal whenever they wanted it, we’d even visit the in-laws if it made our partner happy! But would you ever consider moving abroad for love? This is one of the biggest commitments anyone can make in love, and it is never an easy one to make no matter how in love you might think you are.
There are a number of reasons why your partner might want you to move abroad with them. Perhaps they have to relocate for work. Or you might have fallen for a foreign national who has decided it is time for them to head back home. But it doesn’t matter about the particulars of your situation. Everyone who has been asked to move abroad for their partner will have to try and figure out whether or not they are prepared to go that far for love. Are you wrestling with the decision right now? Here are some factors that could help you decide.
Do You Think They Would Do It For You?
Would your partner move abroad for you if you asked them? Ideally, the answer to that question needs to be a resounding yes. There will be a lot of different obstacles that you will need to try and jump over while you prepare for your big move. Do you think that your partner would also go to all the effort to overcome all the same obstacles if they were faced with them? At the end of the day, you are moving to a completely new country for love, so you should make sure that the love in your relationship is as strong as it can be. If there are any doubts lurking at the back of your mind then you might need to reconsider this big challenge. It might also be a sign that you need to rethink your entire relationship if you doubt that your partner would move for you.
How Difficult Will The Paperwork Be?
Depending on where you are moving to, you might face a lot of paperwork and bureaucracy to enable easy access to the destination. If you are married, though, this shouldn’t be too difficult, especially if your spouse is a native of the country to which you are moving. If that is the case, you will be able to learn how to apply for a de facto visa, which should help guarantee you permanent residency in the destination. However, if you are not married and don’t have a link to the country you are moving too, then you could find getting a visa quite difficult. There are some things that will help the process, though, such as being able to speak the language of the destination and setting up a job for yourself before you move. Don’t get me wrong, though, sorting out all of this paperwork and documentation will be a lot of work and it can be very stressful to sort it out – are you prepared for all of that?
Can You Afford It?
Moving abroad will be very expensive, and you might find that preparing to do so can drain your finances. First of all, if you need to apply for a visa, you will need to pay for it. This can be very costly. For the application process, you might need to travel to an embassy for interviews and other checks – all of these travel costs will add up too! Plus, you will need to pay for flights to your new country. If you are taking all of your furniture and belongings with you, you will have to buy extra luggage allowance and pay for shipping for big, bulky items of furniture. Ideally, you should be able to pay for all of this out of your current savings. Whatever you do, don’t go into debt just to move abroad for your partner as this will be very difficult to get out of, especially if you don’t yet have a job to go to in your new country.
Are You Happy Saying Bye To Friends And Family?
Once you leave your current home, you won’t be able to pop around to visit your friends and family whenever you feel like it. There could be a huge distance between you all and travelling back to them could take considerable time and money. So, would you be happy to say goodbye to all your friends and family just so you can move abroad to be with the one you love? There are a lot of people who would find this goodbye very emotional and difficult to deal with. Thankfully, though, there are lots of tech that makes staying in touch a lot easier than it ever has been. You can now just Skype or FaceTime someone whenever you feel like a good old chat. There are also lots of messaging apps you can take advantage of too, such as Whatsapp and Facebook Messenger. But do you think that that will be as good as speaking to your close ones face to face?
What Happens If Things Come To An End?
Not every relationship is destined to last. Hopefully, yours is one that will go the distance, but you need to be realistic and think about how you will feel if yours finishes while you are living abroad. For some people, returning home might not be an option straight away for financial reasons. Would you be happy about remaining in your ex’s home country while they move on with their life? You could feel like you are stuck in limbo. So, it’s always a good idea to try and figure out an escape plan, just in case the worst-case scenario does occur and you need to leave for home. But, hopefully, that will never happen!
Do you think you are ready to go the distance for the one you love?