If you have got a wedding to plan for the summer, you are probably already drowning under all of the planning and organization that you need to do. There’s no denying that getting prepared for your big day can be extremely stressful! Most of the stress comes from needing to follow certain traditions and trying to live up to people’s expectations. You might even have exceptionally high expectations yourself that you are finding it hard to live up to!
But it’s best to clear your head of what you are expected to do and what society deems makes a good wedding. After all, it’s your big day and it should be exactly how you want it, regardless of what anyone other than your partner thinks.
There are still a few rules that society think we need to obey in order to have a proper wedding. But, if you ask me, the best thing about getting married in a modern society is that you can break these old-fashioned rules especially if it helps make your wedding perfect. Here are the rules that it’s OK to break.
The Bride’s Family Foots The Bill
Back in the day, the bride’s family took care of the bill and paid for everything. However, this is very obviously unfair and is not usually observed by engaged couples these days. Instead, they choose to take on the financial responsibility themselves and pay for it out of their own pocket. This is something you can do even if you are already under financial pressure. It’s worth looking into credit cards to build credit and see about taking out some finance to fund your magical days. You might also want to accept some monetary gifts from your parents and soon-to-be in-laws.
Everyone Gets A Plus One
Traditionally, each guest is given a plus one. However, if you can only afford to invite a small number of guests, all of their plus ones will take up important places that you might prefer to give to your other friends. So, you might want to use a rule, such as “no ring, no bring”. That means only your invitees who are married or engaged get a plus one for their partner. This is apparently the rule that Pippa Middleton used at her wedding.
Your Dress Has To Be White
We don’t all look good in white, so there’s no wonder that not everyone wants to get married in white. And you shouldn’t feel pressured into wearing a white dress if it doesn’t suit you or your personality! In fact, many dressmakers now make ones that come in many different colours and styles, so you can go for something a lot less traditional if you prefer. Whether you wear black, red, or a pretty multi-coloured dress, you will look fantastic on the day!
Remember that your wedding day is all about you and your partner. It’s all about what the two of you want. Don’t listen to anyone else if you don’t want to!