The world of online dating although daunting also proves to be a popular option for today’s singleton, with 1 in 5 relationships having started over the internet.
When stepping into the world of adult dating, profiles and apps, you must remember to be honest with yourself about what you want from this experience. If Catfish has taught us anything, you must be suspicious when there is no profile picture and even more so when there is only one.
Your profile, your control
Although you may be looking for a relationship, that doesn’t mean that everyone you speak to is. When I first joined the app that I met my boyfriend on, I was approached several times by men who wanted a one night stand. Having gone online in the hope of starting a relationship I wasn’t looking for no strings fun. This is where you must remember the don’t settle rule. If you aren’t looking for a hookup, tell them!
There may be an occasion where they don’t respond nicely, But talking from experience don’t allow this to destroy what you are looking for. Remember these people only know your first name and what you put on your profile. Every website, app etc gives you the ability to block, take control and remove those who harass you.
Take a chance
If you find that you connect with someone, then meet up with them. Yes, it feels great to have someone message you but don’t allow this to go on for months and months, meet them and see if your connection is the same in person.
Don’t forget these rules:
- Make sure you meet in a public place, do not arrange to go to each other’s homes.
- Make sure you stay sober and safety conscious.
- Tell a friend or relative about your date.
- Sort your own travel out. Do not allow them to pick you up from your house.
First date ideas
First date nerves normally involve fear of eating, drinking or making a fool of yourself in front of someone new.
So why not consider a date with a difference:
- Go to a theme park
- Visit a zoo
- Watch a live band
- Visit a local tourist attraction
Dating should be fun! it shouldn’t make you feel forced into making unhealthy choices or make you feel like you’ve wasted hours of your life.
My first date was a combination of coffee (well hot chocolate for me) a trip to the nature centre, followed by the cinema and drinks. I instantly felt comfortable in his company and came away with not just my soulmate but a great first date story. I mean not many people have a 10 and a half-hour first date!
Whatever you are looking for the online dating world seems to have you covered. From relationships to sex dating sites, there really is something for everyone. Every niche, relationship status and fetish seems to have its own website for those who want to connect with like-minded people.
So remember what you want, who you want and go and get it!