She may be beautiful, tasteful and also be the picture of sartorial elegance. But she can rip a cake decorator into a thousand pieces with one lash of her venomous tongue. She leaves couturiers and dress designers in floods of tears and has been known to reduce hairdressing salons to cinders with one puff of her fiery breath. She is, of course, the beast known as bridezilla.
The bad news is that she lives within all of us. She thrives on stress, anger and frustration. And when you’re planning a wedding she has much to feed on! With so many logistical elements to juggle, so much expenditure and so much inevitable stress even the most pleasant among us can find ourselves metamorphosing into this savage creature. Let’s not forget, this is the moment that many of us have been planning since we were kids, and making sure that everything is perfect can be a seriously stressful enterprise.
The good news, however, is that anyone can avoid transforming into Bridezilla. All it takes is the right attitude and a few planning considerations…
Tell yourself that things will go wrong… And that’s okay
Let’s be realistic here, with so much to manage, the chance of everything going perfectly without the slightest chances of a logistical hitch are slim to nil. But that’s okay. Life is never a perfectly planned event and your wedding day is no exception. All you can do is all that you can do, but obsessing over things you can’t control (like the weather) is the surest way to madness.
Look for opportunities to make planning easier
Wedding planning can be exhausting and stressful, so take some steps to make the process a little easier on yourself. Look for vendors like The Wedding Gallery who can provide multiple solutions under one roof. This will not only save you time but will more than likely save you money. Reach out to friends and family and ask them if they can help out here and there. They will be happy to do it and this will enable you a little more time to stop and take a breath. Needless to say your fiance should also be actively involved. If they feel ownership over the event they will get much more actively involved. As much as you may have the perfect day mapped out in your head, your fiance shouldn’t be just another chess piece to be moved around the board.
Separate the “must haves” from the “would be nice ifs”
Sometimes we need to let go of that notion of the perfect wedding gleaned from reading magazines and brochures and looking at celebrity wedding videos. Your dream wedding may simply not be viable given your budget and the logistical implications of your venue. And that’s okay. Get a shortlist of “must haves” together for your big day and separate them from “would be nice ifs”. This will not only make planning the wedding a little less stressful, it will make it a whole lot more cost effective.
Remember what’s really important
What’s important about your wedding day isn’t the cake, the flowers, the canapes or even the dress. It’s the look on your fiance’s face when your eyes meet across the aisle. It’s saying your vows and declaring your love for one another.
Everything else, no matter how important it seems, is window dressing.