There is a misconception that those who blog and share their lives on social media live perfect lives. That they have an abundance of confidence and exude happiness. What we forget when we are scrolling through Instagram/Twitter and other social media channels is the fact that these people are real. They experience ups and downs like the rest of us.
Behind the smiles
When we scroll through social media we quite often come across people smiling or caught in the midst of laughter. Their photos portray an image of happiness and at that moment we may assume their lives are perfect. What we may not see is the chaos that is happening in the background. The smile that could be hiding a family drama, a battle with their self-image or their own health.
The day that I posted the picture below, I had been gifted an eye serum and was carrying out the image I had promised in exchange. People scrolling through Instagram might have taken one look at my face and assumed that since I was posing on social media everything was okay.
However, behind that image is a girl who was terrified that every day would be the last day she spent with her dad. For this girl was living with the knowledge that her dad had terminal cancer.
Hiding a depression
The next image shows s girl posing with her puppy. But what no one sees is the fact that I had spent most of the day crying, that I was lost in a world without my dad and living with undiagnosed depression.
B, came into our lives when we needed her the most, she has given us love and focus. But that doesn’t mean that days aren’t hard. Back when that photo was taken 100% of my days were spent in a whirlwind of emotion and tears. I was caught in my grief and couldn’t see a way out.
Living with body issues
With her hair and makeup done and a pretty dress on, you might think that this girl was happy? What the picture doesn’t show is all the insecurities floating around my head. Too fat, Too ugly, wonky smile, Eyebrows not right! I have low self-esteem, I undergo CBT for my grief and confidence and yet this photo doesn’t portray any of that.
Throughout secondary school, I was bullied because of how I looked. Which unfortunately meant that from a very early age I became a comfort eater. My body has always gone one of two ways when it comes to stress, I either have no appetite or an appetite that I can’t stop. After losing my dad comfort eating became a big problem for me and before I knew it I didn’t recognise myself. In fact, that should read I don’t recognise myself.
Social media is amazing for connecting people and discovering reviews, places etc. However, we should always remember that people allow us to see what they want us to see. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t struggling behind the scenes. It means that at that moment they don’t want to share the struggles they face in their life.