Sticks and stones
The wonder years
I might not be at school anymore but those years still travel with me. They still highly influence who I am in the world today. They are the reason I over-explain myself and why I still find it hard walking into a room full of people. They are the reason why it takes a lot to believe what people say and why I use self deprecation as a barrier from more hurt.
In a study conducted by psychologists in both the US and Australia, they discovered that emotional pain hurts more than physical pain. In their paper entitled “When Hurt Will Not Heal: Exploring the Capacity to Relive Social and Physical Pain” the team proved that emotional pain was something that people would relive as where physical pain was found harder to recall.
At some point in everyone’s life they will come across people who will hurt them. This is where we may pick up a new emotional scar or two.
Sometimes the hurt is unintentional, maybe a word said in gest or a sentence muttered in haste. But either way, our words have the ability to cut deep and hurt those around us.
“Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don’t mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime.” -Rachel
Don’t let them define you
I know it is easier said than done, but things said to hurt you don’t need to define your existence. You are better than those words so don’t allow them to cause you to spiral.