Words hurt

I learnt from a very early age that words hurt. I don’t just mean words that are full of vitriol but whole sentences formed to cut you deep.
Sticks and stones
As a child, my school days were full of torment. My bullies would tell me I was fat, mock me for wearing glasses and use my flaws against me. I soon discovered that the physical torment healed faster than the mental, their words would haunt me in my sleep, play on my mind as I went about my day and influence my actions. Oh how I longed to rip the glasses from my face and pretend that my vision was perfect. There was even a period of time where I tried throwing my lunches away so that I wouldn’t be fat anymore. Every day I walked with my head down scared of making eye contact and hearing more things about myself.
Wooden blocks that spell out FEEL
The wonder years

I might not be at school anymore but those years still travel with me. They still highly influence who I am in the world today. They are the reason I over-explain myself and why I still find it hard walking into a room full of people. They are the reason why it takes a lot to believe what people say and why I use self deprecation as a barrier from more hurt.

It hurts

In a study conducted by psychologists in both the US and Australia, they discovered that emotional pain hurts more than physical pain. In their paper entitled “When Hurt Will Not Heal: Exploring the Capacity to Relive Social and Physical Pain” the team proved that emotional pain was something that people would relive as where physical pain was found harder to recall

Everyone, everywhere

At some point in everyone’s life they will come across people who will hurt them. This is where we may pick up a new emotional scar or two.

Sometimes the hurt is unintentional, maybe a word said in gest or a sentence muttered in haste. But either way, our words have the ability to cut deep and hurt those around us.

Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don’t mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime.” -Rachel 

Don’t let them define you

I know it is easier said than done, but things said to hurt you don’t need to define your existence. You are better than those words so don’t allow them to cause you to spiral.

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